The imagery that I always thought of is when your father is in the hospital, and the two daughters come and stay, you know, sit on either side of him. It’s these two daughters who have not been talking to each other, who’ve been fighting, who’ve been hurting each other, and here is the father that they both love in a way. And so, that’s what we tried to build in this episode. — Geeta Patel via HOTD: Official Podcast Ep. 8 “The Lord of the Tides”
ALICENT HIGHTOWER and RHAENYRA TARGARYEN HOUSE OF THE DRAGON (TV Series 2022–)
“This game they are locked in, it’s largely a nonverbal one, and it’s bitter and silent and stony. To name it is to begin to disarm the chasm, the trauma, the difficulty, the pain.”
— Emma D'arcy.
“We exist in a series of looks and chess pieces and hearsay and ravens. We don’t ever get to see the words in front of us.”
so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”
but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.
ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.
if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?
